Why do we feel unloved at times?

Why do we seek attention and time from the people we love ,and from the people we expect love from?

Why do we wait the entire day just to talk to that one person, to be heard by them, to share the smallest details of our lives?

Why do we demand love and become territorial?

People say our body releases oxytocin when we are loved, cared for, and truly heard.
I believe our body responds differently around the people we love. Maybe we release dopamine too because being with them feels like an emotional reward. Isn’t it!

It feels like we have achieved something meaningful, something safe.

Nothing else makes you feel the way you feel around your close ones.
There is a softness in your voice, a certain calm in your nervous system, a glow in your eyes that appears only around them.
And somewhere in that closeness, you begin to believe you have the right to ask for love openly, honestly, unapologetically.

You start attaching your comfort to their presence.
Your mood begins to shift depending on their attention.
You wait for their messages.
You replay their words.
You measure your importance through their effort.
Not because you are weak , but because you care deeply.

But when the love you expect is not received, something inside you trembles.

You feel lost.
You begin to doubt yourself.
You wonder if the love has suddenly faded.
You start questioning whether you were too much… or maybe not enough.

And slowly, you slip into the dark spiral of self-doubt , measuring your worth based on someone else’s response.

The truth is ..all of us carry a little child within us.
A child who wants attention.
A child who wants reassurance.
A child who wants to feel chosen, again and again.

Demanding love, being territorial, complaining to them, expecting from them — maybe these are not flaws. Maybe they are simply expressions of attachment. Maybe they are love languages in their rawest form.

When your heart feels safe with someone, you ask.
When your heart feels close to someone, you expect.
When your heart feels attached, you hold tightly.

And maybe the real lesson is this —
Learning to receive love without apologising for needing it.

Because wanting love does not make you weak.
Needing reassurance does not make you desperate.
Expecting effort does not make you difficult.

Love is not something we should shrink ourselves for.
It is something we should feel safe enough to receive — fully, freely, and without guilt.

Anindita Rath
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